Social Emotional Development - 8 Year Olds 

“If children feel safe, they can take risks, ask questions, make mistakes, learn to trust, share their feelings, and grow.” ~ Alfie Kohn

 

Eights. Middle childhood is well on its way and these kiddos are jumping out of bed with adventure on their mind. This excitement for life, newness, and learning is contagious. Here’s what we can begin to expect from this age group. 

 

  • Increasing social engagement and focusing on peers 

  • Forming larger friend groups and best friends 

  • Stronger awareness of fairness and morality 

  • Developing sense of humor 

  • Exaggerating stories 

  • Displaying a greater desire for privacy 

  • Developing awareness of body image 

  • Shifting emotional states and increasing awareness of complex emotions

  • Understanding how money works and financial habits solidifying (I know, surprising - read more about this 2013 Cambridge study)   

 

Now, how do we support this social emotional development? 

  • Assigning and completing short tasks can help build confidence 

  • Encouraging group sports, teams, or clubs – developing an identity within a greater community 

  • Helping your child consider other people’s point of view – this helps build empathy 

  • Offering more responsibilities at home – doing own laundry, caring for the family pet 

  • Supporting children with emotion regulation strategies and calming techniques 

  • Encouraging problem solving and brainstorming solutions 

  • Starting to have conversations about navigating peer pressure 

  • Educating your child about financial habits and delayed gratification (age-by-age guide)

 

If you have any questions, please feel encouraged to reach out christina@christinakingfamilytherapy.com.

  

Yours In Service, 

Christina King, LMFT 145704

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Citations and Resources: 

Wood, Chip. 2017. Yardsticks: Child and Adolescent Development 4-14 (4th ed). Center for Responsive Schools. 

(2024, July 16). 8-Year-Old Developmental Milestones. Parents, Childhood Development. https://www.parents.com/8-year-old-developmental-milestones-620729

Christina King

Christina King is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in Manhattan Beach. Her work focuses on South Bay tweens & teens struggling with anxiety and depression. In addition to private practice, she also counsels students at Pacific Elementary and Manhattan Beach Middle School.

https://www.christinakingfamilytherapy.com/
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